Discussion: Romance in Books
Kel Sunday, September 28, 2014 discussionRomance seems to be in every YA book out there- if not a relationship, the possibility of one. Romance is also the most common stumbling block in my reading. Despite watching way too many Hallmark movies and enjoying an evening curled up with a chick flick movie or book every once in a while, I have a lot of issues with the book romances I read.
I'm afraid saying this will invalidate my liking all the books named above, but I've wondered why I'm so picky about book romances. The most obvious reason is probably my severely limited relationship experience, but I wonder if it has more to do with my view on relationships in general.
That is, hormones and physical attraction plus shared taste in music doesn't fit my definition of "love." I think the relationships that I connect with more are those in which, not only are the characters friends of some sort, but they are together by virtue of a mutual commitment to one another, a choice, as opposed to "until I 'fall in love' with someone else." There's often a sense of finality to it, like a choice has been made and that's that. *frantically skims through books listed above to make sure their characters fit this description...*
I'm curious. Do you guys find any common factors across the literary romances you love? While you think, I'll close out with a quick list of my general rules for book romances. Yes, they all have exceptions, but in general...
- Romance should be a subplot, not THE plot.
- Instalove is a no-no. Slow burn or no burn.
- Love triangles get you burned at the stake. :)